Rooted & Free

What Healthy Single Woman Independence Really Looks Like

There’s a version of independence the world celebrates

The “I got this, I don’t need anyone” kind. However, as Christian women, we understand that genuine freedom doesn’t stem from self-reliance. It comes from being rooted in Christ, knowing who you are, knowing who He is, and walking in alignment with the life He’s called you to.

For most single women, independence can feel like a heavy burden. Maybe you’re used to doing it all yourself, like the errands, the emotional labor, the long nights wondering if your desires are too much. Or maybe you’re waiting for life to really begin once a partner shows up. Either way, healthy independence invites a different rhythm: one where you’re not waiting around before starting to live, and one where you’re also not hustling for approval for worth.

Healthy independence is about having the strength to make decisions without second-guessing yourself. It looks like paying the bills, starting the business, booking the trip, not to prove anything (most importantly), but because you’re called to live fully now, not “someday.” It also looks like resting when you need to. Asking for help. Saying no without guilt. And staying authentic to yourself, your morals, and your standards.

Some practical ways to step into this rhythm today:

1. Create a weekly routine that reflects your values, not just your obligations.
2. Keep a journal of your wins, your prayers, and where you’ve seen God show up.
3. Surround yourself with friendships that fuel, not drain, your spirit.
4. Learn a new skill you’ve been putting off.
5. Practice receiving, whether that’s help, love, or compliments… Without deflecting.

It’s not about doing life alone. It’s actually knowing when you shouldn’t do it all solo. God designed us for connection with Him and with each other. Letting people in doesn’t weaken you, it matures you. It helps you experience life the way God intended… In community.

If you’ve been in a season of striving, loneliness, or feeling like you have to have it all figured out on your own, you’re not alone. And you don’t have to stay there. Coaching can give you a safe place to unpack what healthy independence could look like for you. Together, we explore your patterns, renew your mindset, and build the kind of life that reflects your values, not your fears.

You were never meant to shrink your desires to fit your circumstances. You were meant to rise, supported and seen. So if something’s stirring in you, like a longing for more clarity, peace, or direction, maybe it’s time to take the next step. Learn more at www.livingintentlycoach.com.

And remember: When the time is right, Mr. Right will show up, not because you chased him down or paused your life, but because you were already walking in your purpose. Until then, don’t wait to live. You’re allowed to thrive, dream big, and build a beautiful, fulfilling life that honors God and your deepest desires.

Lisa Cortes

Lisa Cortés is a Certified Life Coach and founder of Living Intently. Originally from South Africa, she moved to the U.S. to pursue her education and graduated from TCU with Business Information Systems. After time in corporate, she followed her passion for growth and now helps women live with clarity, purpose, and wholeness. Wife. Nature lover. Big dreamer. Building a life that feels as good as it looks.